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Stoicism for Difficult People
Difficult people are a given; your reaction is a choice. The Stoics assumed others act from their own judgments and errors, and practiced responding with steadiness rather than becoming a mirror of their agitation.
Stoic ideas for this
“The best revenge is not to be like your enemy.”
Marcus Aurelius · Meditations
“How much trouble he avoids who does not look to see what his neighbor says or does or thinks, but only to what he does himself, that it may be just and pure.”
Marcus Aurelius · Meditations
“We are members of one great body, planted by nature.”
Seneca · On Anger
Put it into practice
A Stoic tool is only useful if you actually use it. Try this small loop the next time difficult people shows up:
- Name it plainly. Say what is happening without the story you are adding on top of it.
- Split what’s yours from what isn’t. Invest your energy only in the part you can actually choose.
- Do one small thing. A single deliberate action today beats a week of intending to.
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